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Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2555] Sat, 29 September 2018 14:44 Go to next message
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Dear brethren,

I sometimes feel lonely, since I don't have many friends. And I don't have many friends because, well, I'm afraid that if I make more friends than I have now, that I'll be tempted to be worldly and to break the Sabbath, since unfortunately many people don't know about the Sabbath and about worldliness. Although this is wrong of me, I'm afraid of what people will think of me if they knew about my beliefs. I'm afraid that no one would like me for who I really am, that people would hate me for not wanting to play violent video games or watch worldly movies. I feel like I have to be someone I'm not in order to have any companions and friends, and this saddens me.

I've cried sometimes about this and asked God to help me, and He has, but I ask all of you to please pray for me and please counsel me about this issue. I don't want to be alone. I want to have friends I can worship God with and have fun with. And I want to meet some nice Christian lady and marry her and have a family that fears God, and keeps His commandments. But my fear of rejection and my unholy shame are keeping me from doing these things.

Thank God, I feel better writing all this here. Please pray that I be not ashamed of Jesus' words (because that is the case with me) and that my loneliness problem get solved soon. God bless you all.

--Hello There--


"Who is among you that feareth the Lord, that obeyeth the voice of his servant, that walketh in darkness, and hath no light? let him trust in the name of the Lord, and stay upon his God." Isaiah 50:10.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2559 is a reply to message #2555] Sun, 30 September 2018 14:05 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Hello Brother,

You know that we are always here for you. This is Christs' Church and we are all here for one another until the end!

Are you still not allowed to join us on poGm for Sabbath services and/or tox or Viber? We have many members on Viber.

God Bless Brother,

Brother Joe
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2560 is a reply to message #2559] Sun, 30 September 2018 14:10 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Yeah, shoot me a PM here and we can exchange Tox IDs (see https://tox.chat/). Although most are on Viber though as Joe said. Can PM him or me for details.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2562 is a reply to message #2560] Mon, 01 October 2018 20:38 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Unfortunately I don't think I'll be able to join you guys on Sabbath, but I can talk to you guys via Tox. Thank you for your prayers because God has helped me with my loneliness and I feel better Smile. I PM'd Brother Wolf my Tox ID and he should share it with you when he sees my message to him.

"Who is among you that feareth the Lord, that obeyeth the voice of his servant, that walketh in darkness, and hath no light? let him trust in the name of the Lord, and stay upon his God." Isaiah 50:10.

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Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2570 is a reply to message #2562] Mon, 08 October 2018 20:13 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I have sent you a PM a while back. Can you confirm if you've received it? I haven't received your PM myself for some strange reason.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2576 is a reply to message #2570] Fri, 12 October 2018 18:33 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Strange, I never received a PM. Sorry for my late response by the way. Can you try sending me another friend request?

"Who is among you that feareth the Lord, that obeyeth the voice of his servant, that walketh in darkness, and hath no light? let him trust in the name of the Lord, and stay upon his God." Isaiah 50:10.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2577 is a reply to message #2576] Fri, 12 October 2018 18:37 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Ok I sent you another PM. Take a look in your PM inbox by clicking the "Private Messaging" link at the top next to the "Members" button. You should find it there. Let me know if you still haven't. If so, then the forum has another bug to be fixed lol.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2578 is a reply to message #2577] Fri, 12 October 2018 18:40 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Also look in "Control Panel" and check your settings that you allow others to PM you.

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Allow other users to send you private messages in this forum."
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2579 is a reply to message #2578] Fri, 12 October 2018 19:02 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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@Hello There, I've sent you a PM. If you haven't received it then there may be a wierd glitch with your account, so try creating another account. I'm not sure what's going on as I and others were able to PM one another.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2581 is a reply to message #2579] Fri, 19 October 2018 20:46 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Hello again brethren. Sorry about not responding to your PMs. I believe most of the PMs went through but for some reason I didn't realize that you meant PMs on the forum. I know that sounds weird but I thought at first that you meant that you were sending PMs to my qTox account. And when you mentioned where I could see the PMs on this website, for lack of better words, I had a brain fart. I have received your PMs and thank you for sending them. To any other brethren reading this who PM'd me: sorry for not responding earlier.

Please pray for me as there are quite a few difficulties and sins I must face and overcome in the strait and narrow way. I know that God will help me just as He helped me and you guys in the past. God bless and thank you Smile

P.S. I'm not sure what times will work out for me to use qTox as I am probably going to be more busy at school for a little while. You can PM me the times you're available and I'll see whether I can contact you guys


"Who is among you that feareth the Lord, that obeyeth the voice of his servant, that walketh in darkness, and hath no light? let him trust in the name of the Lord, and stay upon his God." Isaiah 50:10.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2582 is a reply to message #2581] Sat, 20 October 2018 09:27 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Can you reply to my PM? I haven't received anything from you yet.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2588 is a reply to message #2582] Fri, 02 November 2018 16:08 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Finally got your PM. My apologies for late reply.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2591 is a reply to message #2588] Tue, 06 November 2018 16:43 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Hey HelloThere, please check your PM.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2597 is a reply to message #2591] Sat, 17 November 2018 12:45 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Sorry for the late reply. It seems that we're friends on qTox now Smile so I assume I don't need to send you my Tox ID anymore?

"Who is among you that feareth the Lord, that obeyeth the voice of his servant, that walketh in darkness, and hath no light? let him trust in the name of the Lord, and stay upon his God." Isaiah 50:10.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2598 is a reply to message #2555] Sat, 17 November 2018 13:45 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Also please pray for me brethren as Satan has renewed his attacks on me. He wants me to give up.

Can I ask what you guys do during your typical day for fun? I have my own activities but I want to know so that I'm not so bored.


"Who is among you that feareth the Lord, that obeyeth the voice of his servant, that walketh in darkness, and hath no light? let him trust in the name of the Lord, and stay upon his God." Isaiah 50:10.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2600 is a reply to message #2598] Sun, 18 November 2018 14:48 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Will pray for you.

I personally try to learn new stuff, watch some videos for example about tiny houses/camper vans, primitive technology or chiropractic because they are interesting to me, exercise a little or mess around with my budgies. I'm also learning for driving license so it also takes my time. Just a few examples.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2603 is a reply to message #2600] Tue, 20 November 2018 16:08 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Sorry for the late reply. It seems that we're friends on qTox now Smile so I assume I don't need to send you my Tox ID anymore?
I don't see you though. We'll have to both be online at the same time in order for your client to find me, after which we can then chat. See my PM.

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Can I ask what you guys do during your typical day for fun? I have my own activities but I want to know so that I'm not so bored.
When I do get around to doing something besides YouTube; I would build projects, check out software that interests me, model rocketry, hiking, driving nowhere just for the sake of driving and thinking, go kart with friends, shooting range, visit trails/parks I haven't been to before, and go to gym. I have a guitar but stopped learning long ago. Praying I stop being lazy when it comes to learning new things, especially software-related things.
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Hi Brother Wolf. Sorry for the terribly late response and for never responding to your PM. I have a separate e-mail for my account on here that I don't check very often. This is because of my situation unfortunately.

Since I've recently had a very strong attack of loneliness again (and even anxiety on the side), might I ask you whether the friends you go kart racing with (or the friends you do anything with) were old friends or friends you made after becoming aware of this church? Have you perhaps gone on any dates after becoming aware as well? The fact that I have few friends and that I have no idea who I can spend my life with really sadden me Sad although praise God I do have 2 friends that I spend some time with.


"Who is among you that feareth the Lord, that obeyeth the voice of his servant, that walketh in darkness, and hath no light? let him trust in the name of the Lord, and stay upon his God." Isaiah 50:10.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2700 is a reply to message #2695] Thu, 21 March 2019 19:26 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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After becoming aware. Login to the online church or you can chat with others on the YouTube live streams that we have now on Nic's channel during Sabbath church services. No dates for me lol. Good that you at least got 2 people, your company will grow. Keep trust in God, and remember that you have a heavenly army of friends up there just waiting for the day Jesus comes again so that they can actually meet you. 30, 40, 50 years here is nothing compared to eternity. There are several people in the Bible who went through a period of being alone or had few friends for a while, like Elijah, Noah, John.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2749 is a reply to message #2700] Sun, 14 April 2019 21:13 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I'm just so discouraged... I feel like no one will ever love and accept me. That I will always be alone and that I won't be able to handle that. God help me. I'm in serious danger Sad.

"Who is among you that feareth the Lord, that obeyeth the voice of his servant, that walketh in darkness, and hath no light? let him trust in the name of the Lord, and stay upon his God." Isaiah 50:10.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2750 is a reply to message #2749] Tue, 16 April 2019 18:37 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Greetings to you, Hello There.

The condition you're feeling, now, reminds me of how I have often felt in the past. I was very co-dependent on specific people in my life. As long as things seemed to be going well between us, everything felt wonderful. But if any disagreements came between us, it was very frightening. The seemingly good relationships I thought I had with others turned out not to be so wonderful after all. They never wanted to hear any honest truths about much of anything. They all lived for the moment and, what was worse, they were only interested in using me.

There were times I dared consider withdrawing from them--only to toss that idea out the window for fear of being alone. But as time went by, I realized I was alone in spite of working so hard to please and be around these people. Eventually things developed in such a way that they abandoned me--because I was being honest with them about something they didn't want to face. That's when I came back to Jesus.

I started reading my Bible again and prayed that God would help me to overcome my co-dependence on other human beings. It was a lonely path to follow at first, but gradually I noticed a change within. I no longer felt the need for my former friends. (I lost 8 of them within a year's time and eventually realized that God was behind this because he wanted me to disassociate myself from others who were actually a bad influence on me.)

Despite this fact, I continued to miss my former friends (if you can really call them that). God showed me it was all right to still care for them--but just not okay to socialize with them. By now I have a completely different outlook on relationships with others. It's not what life or people can do for you that matters. It's what you are willing to bring to life and others that matters. My co-dependency was based on a deep seated selfishness I wasn't aware of. I had unrealistic expectations of others that I certainly wouldn't have wanted others to have of me.

Letting go of this character deformity has been such a blessing. My life is no longer controlled by how much it seems that others care about me. Instead, I'm more concerned about how much I'm willing to care about Jesus and those whom He puts in my path. Satan has reprogrammed most people's minds to believe they have a perfect right to have their selfish desires and wants satisfied by others, while completely ignoring the real best friend we've ever had--Jesus! Once we are able to figure this out it makes such a difference.

I pray that you will come to see this, too, because it sounds as though you are searching for love in a way that God hasn't planned for you. I'm glad that you came to this forum to express yourself. Let us hear back from you with any progress reports. You are more loved than you realize. There's an entire universe out there watching you and all of us--longing to meet you some day--if you don't give up on Jesus.

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Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2751 is a reply to message #2750] Tue, 16 April 2019 20:06 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Sad you're right that I'm searching for love. And it's a terrible idea to gain the whole world and yet lose your soul. I just don't understand how to deal with temptation very well. I'm a timid person and I've had to deal with the pain of being lonely for so long and that just kills any resistance in me. And I want to find people who I can hang out with in real life who know what the truth is. I'm just depressed that I have no such people with me and that due to my situation I can't really interact with you all on Sabbath, and that our interaction is limited to the forum.

I just don't understand how Jesus dealt with temptation so well... He faced the same temptations you and I did as Hebrews says. He prayed and depended on the Father, but... I just haven't found a way to translate this knowledge into actual results, if you what I'm saying. I've dealt with having few friends before, without having the pain I feel now, but I feel so discouraged and seriously concerned about my spiritual well-being. Suffice it to say that I have a lot of temptations to deal with and that I'm a sinner.

I want comfort and acceptance and love. I suppose that is why I feel so much pain, because I don't feel like I'll receive much love and acceptance, at least from people. But my big fear is that I will be unable to endure the temptations of the last days as well as the pain, and that I will fall away and be lost. I'm going to tell you something I've never told anyone else before. I've asked God what Elijah requested in 1 Kings 19:4. That is how much despair I feel. Other times I wish that God would give me up to deception so that my pain stops, and then bring me back later. But that is obviously very dangerous thinking; I might not want to come back, especially with that attitude. The pain I feel in my heart is killing me, spiritually and physically (because a broken spirit drieth the bones). Please, how do I get the pain to stop? Deep down inside I know that if this problem isn't resolved, I will be swept away and probably lost. And that terrifies me.

Sad please pray for me. I'm cowardly and in so much danger.


"Who is among you that feareth the Lord, that obeyeth the voice of his servant, that walketh in darkness, and hath no light? let him trust in the name of the Lord, and stay upon his God." Isaiah 50:10.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2752 is a reply to message #2751] Tue, 16 April 2019 20:08 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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And someone please help me to put the verse that shows up under my replies into practice Sad because that verse is part of the answer, if not the answer

"Who is among you that feareth the Lord, that obeyeth the voice of his servant, that walketh in darkness, and hath no light? let him trust in the name of the Lord, and stay upon his God." Isaiah 50:10.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2753 is a reply to message #2751] Tue, 16 April 2019 23:12 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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I've asked God what Elijah requested in 1 Kings 19:4.
I have been there. Comtemplating suicide is comforting, to know you could just "quit" the game. The reality is that you'll only transfer your pain to your family, friends, relatives, etc. They will have to deal with your permanent void. You may not feel loved, but trust me there are many that love you even those you have not met yet. Keep praying for strength daily, never cease communion with God. Don't let your sins drag you down, but keep returning to Christ. How do you think Jesus feels when He sees that you've fallen for the gazillionth time because you're so weak, and yet you STILL reach out to Him and bring up your legs and stand up yet again? You'd look near impossible for Satan to keep you down. (Provided you continue to return to Christ and strive to obey.) He will never give up on you, so don't give up on Him.

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Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2754 is a reply to message #2753] Wed, 17 April 2019 18:20 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Yes, I will continue to pray for you, Hello There,

In the meantime, please consider this idea: it's important that we all educate ourselves with present truth so it can be shared with others. This is no small assignment. But if you start with baby steps, it's easier to accomplish. One thing that helped me to overcome my own co-dependence and depression was to begin educating myself about spiritual things. Have you had the chance to read any Spirit of Prophecy books--along with the Bible?

Also, do you have any neighbors you can share present truths with? One thing I began to do was to simply look up different web sites--like stopthecrime.net so I could find out about the dangers of smart meters, 5G technologies, GMO foods, chem trailing, etc. What I learned from that site was enough to shock me out of my personal depression and to start wanting to warn others as to how vulnerable they were to what been secretly going on for a long time. A woman named Deborah Tavares put this site together.

(Actually, I had started doing this self-educating even BEFORE I returned to Jesus and when I would share this information with my worldly friends they were to satisfied with their current lives back then to care.) Then I began sharing what I had learned with members of the SDA church...but they didn't care either. It wasn't until I was led to the SDR that I finally discovered like minded people who were more awake than any other group I'd known before. That was such a blessing in itself that it's difficult to explain.

The main point is that you have something special to offer others that God is waiting to show you. You just have to give him a chance. When you wake up each morning, remember to get on your knees and pray for Him to guide you through your entire day. That may sound like a cliche but I've been doing this for 3 years, now, and my life has dramatically changed. Just because you can't see the Holy Spirit with your naked eye doesn't mean he isn't there. Your guardian angels are surrounding you, as well. You need to begin to acknowledge this in a serious way. When you do, you will notice a difference.

Please pray for the security that only Jesus can give. Don't go by your feelings, either, because feelings are so deceptive. Be sure and come back here to give us your progress reports.

Hugs!

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Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2755 is a reply to message #2754] Fri, 19 April 2019 19:54 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Be sure and come back here to give us your progress reports.
That's the problem. I don't know how to make progress in the first place. I've read the Bible and some SOP books but I'm just so weak that I can't translate my knowledge into progress. I'm very afraid of rejection and terrified of temptation because I pretty much always fail. And I don't know how to change this. I've asked God to help me and I'm sure that He does, but my pain is still there and my failures still come. I feel like I've been spiritually going downhill for years now.

Deep down inside I fear that I am hopeless and that I will never be happy, that no one will ever love me and I'll be alone forever. I don't think I've ever been genuinely joyful ever since I discovered the truth years ago Sad. I don't know how to be happy in my situation either. The Bible says, "Be ye thankful," but I don't know what to be thankful for. Everything that I have (and thank God I have it easier than some other people) won't matter a bit if spiritually I am weak and sinful. I guess I can thank God that I'm not being abused or that I'm not suffering the persecution other Christians are suffering, but what does that matter when I'm lukewarm and a terrible sinner? Do you understand what I'm saying?

And preaching to neighbors is out of the question. The only ones who know about my beliefs (and they only have a limited understanding of what I really believe) are 2 family members. The rest of my family and friends don't know and I will be even more alone if I tell them, not to mention that I simply don't know how to tell them in the first place. Sad I also cannot support myself independently right now. I've asked Nicholas what to do and he said to keep the Sabbath as best as I can until I "can follow the Lord on [my] own." But how do I stop my emotional pain?


"Who is among you that feareth the Lord, that obeyeth the voice of his servant, that walketh in darkness, and hath no light? let him trust in the name of the Lord, and stay upon his God." Isaiah 50:10.
Re: Please Pray for Me Part III [message #2759 is a reply to message #2755] Wed, 24 April 2019 18:36 Go to previous message
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Thought I'd check in with you again, Hello There,

Thank you for continuing to share your thoughts. You certainly are being victimized by Satan. The solution is to continue taking baby steps until you are fully released from your negative thoughts. Have you a favorite Bible verse that you can relate well to? Keeping it turning over in your mind would be a help.

I used to be preoccupied with the idea of not being loved enough by others, too, but thank God those days are over because it was no fun being in that trap. It's a miserable place to be. The thing you don't seem to realize is that you have more power than you realize. It comes from God. It's also true that when we fail in our weak areas, it's harder to see the positive side of things. I've been there, too, and know what it's like.

You--and only you--can make the final decision as to what you will do with your life and with Jesus. I can share my own experiences from now until the Second Coming but it won't help you if you don't, first, make up your own mind about what you want to do. If it were me, I'd pray like never before--getting down on my knees--and let myself see how serious I was about wanting a victory. (God already knows the end from the beginning so he knows us better than we know ourselves.)

There have been some days when I didn't want to pray or acknowledge Jesus. But I did so anyway--regardless of my feelings. Sometimes taking actions that go against our feelings is the only answer.

Just don't allow yourself to feel sorry for yourself. That's what I used to do and I eventually realized how selfish I was being. There are other people out there who need you to be in a position to help them or to encourage them in some way. If you waste your time feeling sorry for yourself instead of being there for them, they could actually be lost because you were away from your post. Just think about that and let it sink in.

Above all you must remember that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. That is a fact and NOT a cliche.



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